Colleague or Friend?

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Sometimes I wonder what it means to be totally professional. What does it mean by saying be “colleagues first” and then “friends later”? Why does it have to be so? Because earlier I did not see any harm making friends before accepting people as colleagues. Technically, they are my colleagues as soon as they join the company I am working in but...

My problem is if I see some match... in the thoughts, ideas, way of living and simplicity I fall in the friendship ‘pit’ and then it starts hurting. Why does it start hurting when the people that are “supposedly” colleagues are reacting like colleagues nothing less...nothing more? I guess...The problem is with me...problem is that I want to see and be greeted by a friend when I come to work every day than to meet a colleague who is “Just there” because he/she is supposed to. But it is hard to digest that the people around you are not your friends but are colleagues first. They are here for the same reason in common to ‘earn money’ like me.

Sometimes I get scared thinking that would they even bother if I never came back to office or at least a day (if no work is getting affected at office) and also what scares me is thinking that is this kind of attitude healthy? Is it or is it not? Why is my mind thinking on it so much I have NO idea (or maybe I have hints of why it is thinking this way)?

Why does our heart make us think when it is not it’s job and why does our mind make us feel bad when it is not the part of its job? Amazed at what your heart and mind can do to you? Even I am and that is why this post is ...hoping to get some answers from some people who would bother read it and try to understand and THEN might think of helping me.

Luv Sadhana

Hi

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Hi Peoples,

Just wanted to say Hi...Why I chose to say here is because I felt that my blogsite might be feeling lonely...because It was Loooong time No blog...So here i am to say that Now onwards will make sure that there are frequent blogs....So enjoy! Hope to have more frequent and new posts.

Luv Sadhana

Money and Reality

There are so many things we want in life. But the more we get the more the hunger grows. Do not why? Basic human needs are food, clothing and shelter. Then it should be enough if we earn enough to satisfy these needs but it is not so. Once these needs are satisfied, there are other needs (luxuries) that tempt us. These tempt us so much that in the race to earn money and be able to enjoy them we lose everything we have. We are so engrossed in earning money that we do not find time to enjoy the luxuries that we bought for ourselves.

I got a SMS from one of my friend that said: “There are three stages of life: Teens - Have time and Energy but no money. Workers – Have Money and Energy but no time. Oldies – Have time and money but no Energy” So funny but so true. Just wonder what we will do with so much money that we earn. If we have less money, then we would probably put our children in a school which fit our budget. The more money we earn we want them to put them in really big schools which most of the time exceed our budget because they have so many extra charges pertaining to sports, cultural activities, school maintenance etc. Why? Why are we doing this to ourselves and our children? Because what happens is when our children go to these schools, they will have friends whose parents are rich and well off to do and can spend money as per their will. So the rich parent’s child has all these new things that he can get to school. He can give every child of his class presents on his birthday and so on. Our children don’t know that we cannot afford these and this makes them unhappy. So why not put our children in schools which are simple and children in those schools come from parents who are hard workers who know the value of money.

This way we will give our child an environment where he can see the real world and its difficulties and then he will be able to appreciate and respect whatever he is getting. This will make them understand that there are people who face difficulties to earn a living and meals for twice a day. They will realise that there is much more suffering they can see or think of but also there is love and happiness at the same time balancing out each and everything. Wouldn’t that be good? Wouldn’t that be what we want our children to grow up with in their mind? Just think of this. Think of what you want to give your child and what cost?

Chand jaise Mukhde pe

This is my husband's favorite song sincehe has heard it. I think all of us would like this song. It is from the movie Sawan ko Aane Do with Arun Govil and Zarina Wahab. here goes the lyrics which is taken from the net. Sab Tithiyan Ka Chandrama Jo Dekha Chaho Aaj Dheere Dheere Ghoongta Sarkao Sartaaj HOOOOOOOO hoho hooooooo Chand Jaise Mukhde Pe Bindiya Sitara Nahin Bhoolega Meri Jaan Yeh Sitara Woh Sitara Maana Teri Nazron Mein Main Hoon Ek Aawara, Ho Aawara Nahin Bhoolega Meri Jaan Yeh Aawara, Woh Aawara Saagar Saagar Moti Milte Parbat Parbat Paras Tan Man Aise Bheege Jaise Barse Mahuve Ka Ras Kasturi Ko Khojta Phirta Hai Ek Banjara Ho Banjara Nahin Bhoolega Meri Jaan Yeh Banjara, Woh Banjara Kajrare Chanchal Nainon Mein Suraj Chand Ka Dera Roop Ke Is Paawan Mandir Mein Hansa Kare Basera Pyase Geeton Ki Ganga Ka Tu Hi Hai Kinara Ho Kinara Nahin Bhoolega Meri Jaan Yeh Kinara, Woh Kinara

Luv Sadhana

Adventures

A –Amazing

D – Daring

V – Vigilant

E – Energetic

N – Nice

T –Time pass

U- Unpredictable

R – Ravishing

E – Experience

S - Splendor

Adventures are something that need to be experienced and cannot be explained in words. When we say what an adventurous trip it was mostly we actually won’t know what adventurous means we might just say it to sound good or something like that.

I have had many adventurous experiences when I was in NCC one of them was bungee jumping. When I went for it I thought it is a jump just from a higher altitude or so but it was not so maybe it is technically but that was an experience of a life time. Standing at the edge of such a height all I could think was that I am going to die because I could actually not see land at least may be it would have also been because I was afraid or so but that was it. That day in my life I thought is going to be the last day of my life but that was an experience I would want to experience again.

I had no guts to jump from the edge but I was pushed by my NCC head that was doing it to everybody who refused to jump after climbing up. Falling down from there all I thought and felt was that I was going to hit the land any minute.

I was always over weight and all that was going in my mind was what if the chord supporting my legs breaks or what if my leg detaches from my body when I am coming down because of my weight? But the fun and excitement once I was pushed off was amazing and I would like to suggest it to everyone who is scared of Bungee jumping that is something that you got to experience at least once before your life ends and you may never have a chance to do it at all.

Haven’t you ever dreamed of living a life of a bird, have wings and be able to fly away from this world. One adventure that would make you feel like that is Para gliding. Para gliding is all about wearing a glider kind of costume and jumping off from a height and then have the feeling of a bird, which is when you will realize how a bird feels when it flies. It gives you a feeling that your are free and now nothing can hold you down you understand the meaning of being free and what would you do if you ever had wings. So be adventurous in life, try out crazy stuff and then you will know what all life has for you and is ready to give you, it is just that you have to stretch your arm towards it.

Luv Sadhana

Hubli

Hubli is a place in Karnataka which is located at a distance of around 420 Km north from Bangalore. Hubli whenever talked about is talked along with its twin Dharwad which is famous for its pedas. Hubli is famous for Industries.

But Hubli for me is become a honeymoon place. It is a place where I go once a month to meet my husband since he works at a place called Karad which is 120 K.M. from Pune. It is a place which is almost at an equal distance from Bangalore and Karad. It takes around eight hours by train to reach there and thus has become a very convenient meeting place for us so that neither of us has to travel for sixteen hours to meet each other. Sixteen hours is the time required to reach Karad from Bangalore and vice versa.

What more I can tell about Hubli there are a few which I recall because there have been a very few places in Hubli that I have visited. In Hubli there are many theatres that we visit actually there is a group of theater which plays Hindi movies and to surprise the ticket for Balcony costs only Rs. 60 per head. There is also a lassie bar just attached to the wall of the theater where a nice creamy glass of sweet lassie costs around Rs.14. This is a plus point for us because fortunately my son loves Lassie. We always got to the show that is at three and back to the lodge after the movie.

In Hubli there is a Big Bazaar which is very big in size and to my surprise has all the variety and ranges of any and every house hold goods. It is at least better than the one that is near my house at Bangalore. There is always sale in the Big bazaar at Hubli and I get to buy many things for really low price and be happy. This big bazaar is on Gokul road which is around seven to eight kilometers from the lodge and costs around fifty bucks in rickshaw to reach there. Prior to big bazaar on the there is this huge park that I have never been to because it looks very untidy and dirty from the outside. And, also there is no place of shade that we can find from the outside view of the park.

The weather at Hubli whenever I have been has been hot even during the first half of the winter season and this is also a factor which stops me from going to the park which is in the centre of the city, thinking of spending any time there. Hubli is also become my favorite place for one more reason that I can always find reservation in the train to reach there. It is also my favorite because I can leave Bangalore by Friday night and reach there by Saturday early morning and be able to spend my weekend with my hubby and be back to work on Monday leaving Hubli on Sunday night.

Hubli is become like a boon to our marriage life because it is the place where we can meet any weekend of the month we decide and has convenient transportation to and from there without much hassles.

Luv Sadhana

Child Marriage

Child marriage means children who are below the age of eighteen are married. Child marriage is illegal by law but is still practiced in most of the places in India. If you want to know the consequences of child marriage the best way is to do by watching a serial which is telecasted on air called ‘Balika Vadhu’ which portrays what all kids go through when they are married at a tender age even when they do not know what marriage means or is all about.

Child marriage takes out the innocence from the children, at a small age especially a girl child is forced to take in the family responsibilities when it is the age to enjoy, play and share happiness. Child marriage takes out the essence of childhood from children, the ability to have fun, ability to discover, ability to invent, ability to find joy in any and everything.

This is the reason why Child marriage is a crime and must and should be stopped at any cost. Child marriage is also responsible for the increase in population because the girls who have just reached puberty start giving birth too child because they do not the consequences of it. Becoming a mother at a tender age where you are not physically and mentally ready kind of kills you from within. Because the young mother herself has not physically and mentally grown up to up bring another life in this world. What would she teach her child about fun and enjoyment, about happiness when she hasn’t been able to experience any.

Child Marriage thus is also a social crime which is committed against young girls because in child marriage it is not the boys who are married suffer it is always the girls who do. Because they are asked to sacrifice anything they want to do and adapt to beliefs and other things what her husband’s family wants her to. Because of child marriage education is stopped for the girls because the husband’s gamily does not want the women in their family to stand up to the men of the family for any reason and at any cost.

Child marriage if you divided these words they just do not fall in within a range. Child means innocence, honesty, fun, joy, enjoyment, happiness etc but marriage comes with responsibilities, fear, family and so on and so forth then how can we possibly mix them up? We are contradicting the truth around us and trying to mould iot our way and I do not know for what joy.

Child Marriage is also often a case where in young girls under the age of eighteen are married to elderly men probably the age of their father or uncle. Just imagine how would she be able to accept such an elderly person as her husband who kind of represents her father or an uncle and portrays an image of them to her rather than a husband.

What we can do as educated people to stop child marriage is that:

Firstly, try and educate more and more people about it, show the consequences of such a dreadful deed.

Secondly, stop encouraging things like this to ever possibly occur around you.

Thirdly raise your voice against it and if you see stuff like this happening do whatever it takes to stop it.

Stop child marriage and give the child what it deserves, children deserve love, care and happiness. Do not punish them with child marriage.