Happy Women's Day

It is 8th of March and today is women's day...Happy Women's Day to all of us!!!
Women are seldom silent. Their beauty is forever speaking for them…
Celebrate Women hood!

I Am Thankful

Just got this from a friend...I hope there is no copyright issue thing with this because I am mentioning that I took it from one of my friend who send this to me as a mail.

I Am Thankful

For the wife
Who says it’s hot dogs tonight,
Because she is home with me,
And not out with someone else.

For the husband
Who is on the sofa
Being a couch potato,
Because it means he is home with me,
And not out in the bars.

For the teenager
Who is complaining about doing the dishes,
Because it means she is at home,
Not on the streets.

For the taxes that I pay,
Because it means
I am employed.

For the mess to clean after a party,
Because it means I have
Been surrounded by friends.

For the clothes that fit a little to snug,
Because it means
I have enough to eat.

For my shadow that watches me at work,
Because it means
I am out in the sunshine.

For the lawn that needs mowing,
Windows that need cleaning,
And gutters that need fixing
Because it means I have a home.

For all the complaining
I hear about the government,
Because it means
We have freedom of speech.

For the parking spot
I find at the far end of the parking lot
Because it means I am capable of walking
And I have been blessed with transportation.

For my huge heating bill
Because it means
I am warm.

For the lady behind me in church
Who sings off key because it means
I can hear.

For the pile of laundry and ironing
Because it means
I have clothes to wear.

For the weary and aching muscles,
At the end of the day
Because it means I have been
Capable of working hard.

For the alarm that goes off
In the early morning hours
Because it means I am alive.

Luv Sadhana.

Change and Transition

As promised...I am back to my post. Today while I had some time during work, I went through an interesting article: 'TRANSITION AS 'THE WAY THROUGH' by William Bridges '. He talks about the difference between transition and change and frankly till today I thought that transition is another way of saying change but after reading this article it kind of made sense to me that both ain't the same.

Think of it... when we change something or lose something in our life, lots of things change but getting used to that loss or the change is what is called transition. We might have to find new things to compensate for it or justmake sure that the chnage does not affect you or affect you enough that everything else stops because of it. I might be saying the same thing William Bridges is talking but just in my words so I apologise for the cliche.
Nothing much to talk now. I will update my blog next week. Till then bye.

Luv Sadhana.

Today, after a long time, I have some time-off from work and felt like writing a blog but I don’t know what to write about. This is the first time when I want to write something but don’t know what to write about. Is it normal or is it just that I have stopped exercising my brain enough so that I can think of something to write about? Sounds weird? Does it?!? I am not sure but really feel that while you are doing mechanical stuff in “writing’ why forget to do creative writing even if no one has asked you to or paid for it?

I am blabbering out what I feel and again not sure if I had to do this in my blog. Then I thought what the f*** I can write anything I want to because it is my personal blog. Now-a-days I actually feel that I haven’t been doing enough thinking… in regards to anything but Why?!? Who has stopped me or what is it that is holding me from doing it? So, today is the day I have decide that now onwards no matter how busy I get at “work” I am going to update my blog once a week.

With that thought I say goodbye till next week (sounds cliché as heard in radio… can’t help it as it is the only source of music that I am using to keep myself sane ;))
Luv Sadhana.

Mehengai Dayan

There is a song in the movie ‘Peepli Live… Mehengai Dayan Khaaye Jaat Hai’, which means no matter how much we earn the price hike in everything, is killing us. It is actually true. I did not realize this until a few days ago when I went shopping.
I was buying some household stuff that included some pulses, rice, vegetables and fruits. The bill came up to Rs.1000/-. When I went through the bill, I saw the prices of each. Dal was at Rs.100/kg where as rice was at Rs.40. I got another big shock a few days ago, when I was searching for good schools for my son’s admission. The school fee is actually more than my engineering fee, and I am talking about just the kindergarten. I wonder what is it going to be by the time my son reaches graduation.
There were days (seems like centuries back) when we bought stuff for a family of seven and the bill would not exceed Rs.500/-. Those were some days… Now we earn just to fulfill our basic needs. No matter how much we earn at the end of 2nd week of a month, we are back to square one where we are again working to survive the first two weeks of the next month.
Why is it like this? I started questioning myself and first I could not think of an answer. I was worried about this and it was at the back of my mind. Suddenly, there came an issue in my house about selling a land. Then, it clicked my head.
My dad and in-laws are actually farmers but we just could not survive on that and hence they moved to the city to earn more. If they moved to the city, what happened to the land owned by them? It either is sold, or is left as it is because nobody is ready to grow anything on it. If this is the case with my family, then what about the others (farmers I mean)? I guess they are doing the same. Hence, the demand is more and supply less which is the reason for the price hike in everything.
One more reason that I could think of was population. We are having more mouths than we can actually feed. There are many more reasons to it. Bad government, corrupt politicians, etc. I was reading an article on Times of India today when I came across a blog about MLAs.
Did you know: Their salary with other benefits and “stuff” comes up to around Rs.2 crore! Yes, that’s right 2 crores!!! That is how much they earn every year. That means we are not a poor country and can afford to help the farmers so that they grow more and balance the demand and supply equation. If the Government can pay a MLA so much for doing nothing, can’t they invest half of that money to develop our country (including all MLA’s half annual salaries)? They can and should. If they do, we will not have such price hikes, we can give people basic needs, good education, basic amenities to survive and much more… Then, why isn’t the government doing so? I have no idea why. However, I want to know what to do when we know about the corruption and Indian black money millionaires and all. What is it that as an Indian citizen I can do to stop all this so that many like us can benefit from it (Talking about every one actual excluding the filthy rich)?
Please let me know, as to what can I do? I cannot work for 10 hrs a day to survive only first two weeks of every month and then have to choose between the cheapest schools (or Government schools) for my son’s admission.

Eating a lot and then Throwing up :(

The other day I was trying to forcefully vomit out the food I had eaten because I felt guilty that I had eaten a lot… for the first time. But then again I tried the same thing yesterday, but actually felt guilty that I was troubling my body so much, and it did give up on me. I could not sleep whole night thinking about people who have this disorder Bulimia Nervosa and Anorexia Nervosa. The first time I read about it I felt that it was not such a big “Disorder” as it was portrayed. I thought that “oh! That is cool… so you can eat anything you want and then all you need to do this puke it out… Isn’t it great ?!?”

(Image taken from: http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=4030051939148067540)

But when I did it yesterday, I felt really bad… bad emotionally, physically and mentally. I felt why am I doing this to myself and my body? It is just so sadL . The body that takes care of you… if you take care of it little… this is all I have to give it back? I was feeling so low and depressed that I could not sleep all night and then decide that I will blog about it… Not because I wanted to take off the guilt that I felt… but to tell somebody who is in the same state as mine that this is not right. It is not right for you because it ruins your health not only physical but also mental health.

There are many articles about it and we might have read about it… but would have not taken it so seriously because it is just another article where somebody has some disorder and it actually becomes interesting because it is one of the ways you can lose weight the easy way after eating a lot or not eating at all. How sad can this be? Our body needs some nutrition every day to allow us to do the daily chores but then we don’t even want to give it that or take that all off because we think we might have over done it? What is wrong with us and why?

These disorders are also hereditary, can be caused because of biological and environmental factors… but it needs to be cured. Need to be cured because they are so dangerous as tumors or cancer. Tumors or cancer just eat us physically and by the end of it we know what is going to happen… but these are far worse because these eat us physically, mentally and emotionally. Not only do they affect us but people around us because if we are not happy with ourselves… how can we promise or at least take the effort to keep our loved ones happy? How? How?

So this is to all the people who feel being thin is cool and if we feel that, then there are right/correct ways to do that. This is not a right… forget this is NOT even a way to be thin. Please do consider this… because I realized what I was doing is bad for me and have started to go in the correct path and want others to try that also.

My 10 day Trip

In 5 years of marriage, this is the first time that I had taken so many days off for a vacation. So I wanted to share it with everyone I know. Talking about it to each person can get tire some… so here I am writing about it.

My trip started on 22^nd May with a travel from Bangalore to Karad (a place which is 120 Km off Pune… and the place my husband works) by train (Rani Chenamma Express – which travels only to Kolhapur). I boarded the train at 9:15 pm in the night and the journey started. I had got a Side upper berth in 3^rd AC… so was waiting if somebody could exchange it with me since I had my son with me. But…after trying hard and with every person in the compartment, I found one person who had an Upper berth who exchanged it with me.

Then, came the T.T and he started checking tickets… there was a man in the train (one cabin before me) who was drunk and when the T.T came, he was having dinner… so he refused to get his ticket checked by the T.T… instead of doing that, he actually started arguing with the T.T and yelling at him. But the T.T was a good man, he did not argue and actually said that he would be back to check his ticket when he is done with his dinner. This happened and then everybody went off to sleep. I tried hard but could not sleep because the upper berth is not comfortable and small for my height. Somehow managed to spend the night and then reached Kolhapur at 2:00 pm (on Saturday: 23^rd May) where my husband was waiting to pick us up. Took a bus from there to Karad and reached there by 4:30 pm.

When I reached home, I had a shock of my life… My husband had cooked food for us!!! Rice and sabji for us and he specially made Dal for Shaunak (my son) since he would not eat the sabji. This was the biggest gesture from him I have had in 5 years. I was awed by this and fell in love with him all over again.

The house was so dirty that I had to clean it up first even before I could think of eating though I was hungry. Cleaned up the place and then gave a bath to Shaunak, his father fed him and let him off to play. Then took a bath and then had lunch cum dinner. After this, spent the rest of the time talking to my husband… went off to sleep early and the day ended.

The next day Sunday started with cleaning up the place. Made breakfast (Sand witch and tea) and then went off to bathing Shaunak and washing clothes and everything. By the time the daily chores ended, it was afternoon. I prepared lunch. We finished eating and decided that we go watch a movie. We watched Kites (3 to 6 show)… from there went to Big Bazaar… did some shopping… brought some ready to eat sabji… came home… had it with the reaming rice and Dal (prepared in lunch) and went off to sleep. The next day was Monday and my husband had to go to work… he went late and came back early when I asked him the reason for this… he said because I have come and he wants to spend time with me… so he is going late and will be back early. I did know how to react to this… my love for him was increasing day by day and minute by minute.

That day when he left…I had again washed the place because I was not satisfied with the cleanliness which took the whole day and he returned back from work. I made some rice and sabji and we had dinner. We spent time talking (which happens very rare ;)) and then again back to sleep. The next day we went to Satara (100 km from Karad) to see one of his colleagues daughter (their first daughter had expired when she was 3 months old because of doctor’s negligence and this second baby had come 2 years later after that incident in their life).

So, we went to Satara picked up another colleague who had come from Daman. This travel took us 2 to 3 hours. Went to see the kid… spend some time there and then went to have lunch. Had lunch and then went to one of the sites in Satara (My husband works for a company which deals with Windmills). After that, my husband and his colleagues had some work in office and hence I and the other colleague’s wife decided that we will go shopping while they are at work. We went shopping… I bought clothes for Shaunak and then we left Satara by 7 pm. By the time we reached Karad, it was 9 pm and I had this craving to eat Vadapav but my husband did not ask the driver to stop the vehicle any where since he (the driver) would get late to go home. So we came back home and I was angry that he did not get me Vadapav… did not cook… did not eat anything… fed Shaunak milk and then pretended to go to sleep. My husband took the effort to cook for us (again). He cooked but he did not eat (since I was not eating)… so I had to eatL. But was still angry with him… did not speak to him and went off to sleep.

The next day we had to leave for Daman(where my husband had a 3 day training on Customer Relationship Management)… the train was at 11 pm in the night… so my husband decided, he will go to work and be back early leaving me all alone to do the cleaning and packing his stuff and mine. I had to pack it separately because I had booked my train to Bangalore from Mumbai. He went to work… I started my daily chores… finished all the cleaning, washing, cooking and packing. Cooked dinner and kept calling him… he kept saying he will leave in half an hour… every hour since I called him and finally he was home by 10:45 pm (when we had a train at 11pm). The problem with Karad station is that no train halts there for more than 2 minutes. I locked the house and by the time we left it was 10:55pm. The station is 5-6 kms from home. Somehow the driver made us reach the station in 4 min and we were there a minute before the train left. Our ticket was in 3^rd AC but since we were late and the train started moving… we had to get in the sleeper class coach. As we got in… it reminded me of the movie ‘Jab we met” because even I have never missed a train and I started laughing. But the happiness was momentary as I realized that we had to now go through 8 coaches now to get to 3tier. Somehow when we got to the compartment… the entrance to it was closed… we banged and shouted but no use. Then I had to go to the T.T and requested him. He called up the blanket boy who then opened the entrance and finally we got into the compartment. We found our seat… some other lady was sleeping there with her kids. Had to wake her up… The T.T gave her another se

at and then checked our tickets and went. I served dinner for my husband and then we all went off to sleep. To get to Daman we had to travel from Kara to Mumbai (8 hr journey), from Mumbai to Vapi by train (another 4 hrs) and then to Daman by car (half an hour). We reached Daman at quarter to one. The hotel (Sagar Presidency) booking was done by the company before we reached there. We got to the hotel freshened ourselves, had lunch and all of us went off to sleep. We got up by 6:30 and then had some tea… got ready… found out a place nearby where we could go to and then left the hotel by 7:30 pm.

Daman is actually divided in two parts called Nani (means small in Gujarati) Daman and Moti Daman (means big in Gujarati). We went to this place called Daman Pequendo Jetty (in Nani Daman) which was a kilo meter away from the hotel.

The hotel was in a place called Tin Batti. There is a small circle near the hotel which had three lamps and a milestone which is actually the place where Portuguese had surrendered to the then Lieutenant (I forgot the nameL). Damao Pequendo Jetty is the place where the Da

mao-Ganga river meets with the Arabian Sea (I guess ;)). It is a silent beach (but you can’t reach the water :( ) with a small park (named Gandhi park) for kids. Also, there is a fort called Nani Daman Fort with a church inside. We could not get inside the fort or the church as the entry is allowed only for a certain period of time and only with a special permission from the priest (how bad and sad). In jetty, near the beach there is also a temple… I don’t know of whom because it was closed. There is a bridge (Daman - Ganga Bridge) which crosses over to Moti Daman where there is another Fort, the stately Light house, Gardens, Historic Monuments and ancient Churches in Gothic style but we could not do that because it was really late and dark. We spent time at Jetty itself… had ‘Chana Jor Garam’. Also, we had chat and Falooda (yummy) and left the place by 9:30. Reached hotel and went off to sleep.

The next day my husband went to his “training” and was back by 7:30 pm. We left the hotel to go to another place – Devka Beach. It was 4 to 5 kilo meters from Nani Daman. This was also a beach which had amusement park, camel rides, pony rides, loads of restaurants (with bars) and a small shopping line. The water was far away as the tide had passed and we could only sit in the park because it was totally dark near the beach. The amusement park has a mini Columbus and train for kids, lots of swings and slides (all of which were brokenL). We had to wait for few other colleagues of his because there was a company dinner which was arranged for all the employees (and their families ;)) who had come to attend the training. We waited and people came… all together there were sixteen colleagues, 3 women (including me) and three kids (one each ;)).

We had dinner and left. Had some argument with my husband and went off to sleep. Next day again, he left for training and came back very late so we could not got Jampore beach and decided to go back to Jetty and spend time. Spent time there… came to the hotel and day ended. The next day we left Daman and took a train from Vapi to Mumbai (Dadar) by 1pm. Then travelled to Andheri from Dada (my sister-in- law’s place) by 3pm. Had lunch at her place… and stayed there. We had to catch another train from Dadar at 9:30 the same day. My sister-in-law was supposed to come with me to Bangalore since we had got only one seat for two of us and she decide to drop off so that my seat will be confirmed. So we left and got the train (Chalukya Express)… my husband had to get down at Karad (which we reach by 5 in the morning) so we all went to sleep. He got down at Karad in the morning and I continued the Journey with Shaunak. I reached Bangalore at 11pm since the train was late by an hour. My brothers came to pick me up and all the four of us came to my house (in Banshankari). This concluded my 10 day trip.